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Advantages of Massage

All babies crave touch, especially those of the persons with whom they have most contact, usually parents. Babies can sense a familiarity and will respond quicker to that person. In general, a baby will appreciate back rubs and tummy rubs, rather than stroking of limbs. Spending time during nappy changing is beneficial as it allows the baby to relax during this time.

As toddlers get older it becomes more difficult to get them to sit or lie still long enough to give a proper massage, so most benefit will come at bedtime when tiredness is evident. Gentle stroking of the temple and forehead can induce sleep. Once the child is older and experiencing some of life, such as school and social activities, it is useful to create a regime where they can have a time of relaxation or meditation without feeling the need to ‘perform’. It has been noticed that children of primary school age who have a time in their week where they have the opportunity to be themselves, often decide to sit and read or sing rather than playing more energetic things or even watching television. This brings more balance to their life and eases pressures to succeed, often achieving this naturally.
(Note: all child massages are given with a chaperone in the room.)

As well as being the worst age for parents, the teen years (especially 13 to 15) can be the worst for teens also. All about testing boundaries, like the “terrible twos”, teens are unsure how to express themselves. Everything is extreme – dress, way at looking at the world and communication is important. Patience is vital. For them, dealing with peer pressure is not easy. Reputations and relationships can be ruined by social media. Parents should not try to be their friend – they want a parent, someone to make them feel safe in a confusing world. This is where a therapist can play a part.
Having someone that they can talk to, knowing that it is all private and confidential, allows them to open up and explore their inner feelings. Often just talking through their thoughts allows them to solve their problem themselves. Allowing a professional to give them the freedom to explore, while being massaged in a caring and safe situation, often brings a sense of inner peace they did not believe they have. In my experience, the young adult who is open to interacting in this manner, returns to experience and progress further in their self awareness. Important events in their life can be eased with massage – pre and post exam nerves for instance. It is often when they are on holiday that they feel more relaxed as they are away from friends who sometimes stifle them. It is at this time that they feel more at ease in opening up to their true feelings without having to hide how they really feel about themselves, their family and the world.
(Note: all young adult massages are given with a chaperone present at client discretion. The young adult is the client.)

In today’s frenetic society it is important to have an ‘oasis’ in which to retreat at times. Many of us find it difficult to create this for ourselves, as we tend to think of it as being self-indulgent. Nothing could be further from the truth. The love of self is vitally important to our wellbeing, and allows us to give love to others freely and without expectations. Unfortunately, many people are locked into the attitude that their life is too busy to take time out for a ‘pampering’.
This is the reason that massage should be seen as a therapeutic exercise, and not just lying on a couch for an hour being caressed. Allowing the mind to relax while the body is treated to stimulation not normally received gives us the ability to see things more clearly afterwards. Problems that may have been brought to the clinic might be solved without recourse to fretting all night for a solution.

Advice for adults both young and old
The fear of showing vulnerability stops us from making real connections, and setting course on the pursuit of likeability. By giving yourself wholly (holistically) into the hands of the therapist, you can be assured that nothing you say or do in the consultation will be seen as a criticism. You may be as open as you wish – the more the better for you to achieve the most. Similarly, once on the couch and working, nothing is expected of you in return. Be open to receiving unconditional love and care. Be open to feelings of euphoria or light-headedness. Be open to a warmth and closeness in the connection of the therapy. Expect nothing and reject nothing. Receive everything and give thanks to yourself that you are able to be free and explore your inner self.

Spending all your time in self-improvement leaves no time to criticise others
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